Re: the softboy phenomenon, I would like to thank you for the mantra "new year, new dicks," which I repeat to myself often for encouragement. (Was this a Carlynne original? I think yes!)
I think it's possible my softboy wasn't always a softboy since we did set out with an earnest intention to date... but I maybe let it switch over to that a few months after he broke up with me because I left the door open for stuff to keep happening, knowing he was exploring his options and didn't want to commit to me. Annnyway. I haven't seen him since October. New year, new dicks. (I mean, I still haven't actually encountered any new dicks in the new year, but you know. Pandemic.) xo
Yes! The new Ds was a complete Carlynne original. Bless that brilliant woman; we are so lucky. Completely hear you on the transformation into a softboy, and think that this is very common. Also think that sometimes, men and women and non-binary folks who are afraid of confronting breakups/hurting feelings (and genuinely miss the person they broke up with!) can enter this territory without any ill intent... IT IS ALL SO COMPLICATED!
Re: the softboy phenomenon, I would like to thank you for the mantra "new year, new dicks," which I repeat to myself often for encouragement. (Was this a Carlynne original? I think yes!)
I think it's possible my softboy wasn't always a softboy since we did set out with an earnest intention to date... but I maybe let it switch over to that a few months after he broke up with me because I left the door open for stuff to keep happening, knowing he was exploring his options and didn't want to commit to me. Annnyway. I haven't seen him since October. New year, new dicks. (I mean, I still haven't actually encountered any new dicks in the new year, but you know. Pandemic.) xo
Yes! The new Ds was a complete Carlynne original. Bless that brilliant woman; we are so lucky. Completely hear you on the transformation into a softboy, and think that this is very common. Also think that sometimes, men and women and non-binary folks who are afraid of confronting breakups/hurting feelings (and genuinely miss the person they broke up with!) can enter this territory without any ill intent... IT IS ALL SO COMPLICATED!